Ratto's blog: "14254"

So tonight I was sitting at a bar minding my own business when a lady sat down next to me. All fine and well until 2 mins later she decided to tell me that I needed to leave. Apperntly my mear presance was offending her. She told me that if I cared about the human race I should just go home and stay there so other people would not have to look at me. Everyone had a good laugh until I ordered another drink and they realized I was not leaving yet. A few guys thought it would be funny to come over and tell me I had to leave also. Because I was offending everyone there by staying. So I ordered another drink.  It took all of 2 mins before some one else decided to come over and tell me to leave. Now by this point I was a little buzzed and not feeling like being so nice. So I procceded to let everyone in there know what I thought of them. 2 guys got up but quickly sat back down when they realized they did not scare me. It is hard to scare some one who is crazy and has a death wish. Once I was done having my say I left. But not before they all cheered my leaving.

So recently I put up an online dating profile. I have sent out over 12 first emails with no responses. Now there is no garuntee to get any responses but it got me thinking. How do these site actually figure out who would and would not be a good match? I mean you answer rather redundent questions and fill out a form.

Second thing it got me thinking about is a problem I never thought I would have.  While I have been told by many a lady that they wish to meet and date a guy like me. They never would go out with me nor have they ever dated anyone like me. So it got me thinking that maybe they were just being polite. But I have a friend that told me over 16 years ago that I am the kind of guy that women marry but not date. But how can you marry some one but not date?

Third thing I was think about is that in the ladies profiles they say they are tired of guys that just want the "hook up".  And they really want to know the person they are dating/meeting.  So while emailing them I talked about common intrests and asked simple and polite questions about them and the intrests we do not share. In hopes of getting to know them. Yet they never responded. Which means they are not interested. And that is their choice and right.  But was it because of my email or my profile or my pictures?

I remember the days of meeting some one in the bar or at school and asking them out. If they said no then you just walked away. Now a days you tweet them, friend them on facebook, or join dating sites. Mainly because it is just easier to blow some one off with out actually saying anything or looking them in the face.

Recently I decided to try online dating again. I have not had much luck with it in the past. And this time does not seem to be going any better. While watching tv tonight I had a thought. How hard would it be to set up a speed dating or singles mixer? There are plenty of places near by that could hold it. The main problem would be to make sure there is a accurate mix of males and females. And of course the cost of renting a space and possibly even drinks. But I think the hardest will be to get that mix of males to females. Maybe there could be screening process to make sure there are people that truly want to find love and all that. Any advice or suggetions would be great.