1. Be careful of using personal entertainment as a way to avoid closeness with the one you love. Couples often do this at bedtime.
2. Do not stifle natural feelings of desire. Do whatever you can to fan the flame.
3. Do not work yourself up into a bad attitude simply because your loved one is busy doing something else at the moment.
4. Never speak with sarcasm in your voice, especially regarding something your loved one enjoys. Show love by trying to appreciate each other’s unique interests.
5. Do not give in to sudden fits of temper.
6. Beware of selfish preoccupation so you do not miss between-the-line hints when a loved one needs you.
7. Do everything you can to preserve the bedroom as a quiet place of rest and refreshment. Avoid discussions of business or family problems there.
8. Do not point blame at your loved one for changes and problems in your relationship.
9. Be willing to forgive and continue to take reasonable, lifelong emotional risks.
10. Focus on what you can do in the present and in the future to improve your relationship; do not dwell on “the way you were.”
11. Do not mentally rehearse your loved ones shortcomings over the last day, month, year, decade, ect.
12. Do not dwell on the times your love has hurt you. Move on.
13. Reflect on whether you have truly forgiven someone for hurting you.
14. If you have been unfaithful, accept the fact that it might take a while for your loved one to forgive you and trust you again.
15. Do not assume your relationship is as good as it can be or even better than it was.
16. Realize that everyone deals with tragedy and grief differently.
17. Talk about what’s happening in your relationship right now; do not bury feelings or hide them from each other.
18. Take as many photos as you can so you can cherish them through time together.
19. Express to your loved one how he or she can help you cope.
20. Do not forgo long periods of abstinence from intimacy.
21. Do not go to bed angry—never, ever, ever!
22. Share significant life events together whenever possible.
23. Treat each other with tenderness, even in public. It makes your lover feel special.
24. Be honest about grief when it surfaces, but do not dwell too long on sad thoughts.
25. Help your loved ones to practice the valuable act of forgiveness.
26. Have concerned regarding social and environmental surroundings of your home.
27. Express forgiveness in tangible ways.
28. Compliment your loved ones when the do something commendable. Be specific and sincere about the reasons for your admiration.
29. Plan activities during the holidays to create special meaning and memories for each member of the relational family.
30.Respect the fact that each person’s physical, mental, and emotional clock ticks at a different speed.
31. Understand the strong correlation between a significant other’s sense of fulfillment and satisfaction in their feeling of purpose.
32. Encourage on another to take up a hobby or a project to stimulate personal growth, but do not let you own interests infringe on the relational family’s well-being.
33. When a loved one wants to speak to you about something, give them your undivided attention, or ask if you can discuss the matter at another time when you can better concentrate. Do not brush the matter off.
34. Care enough about relational members to keep abreast of all that is going on in their lives from day to day.
35. Demonstrate support for you lovers choice of profession. He or she spends usually half of all waking hours there; you don’t.
36. Do not attack your loved one as soon as he or she walks in the door, even if you are on edge about a problem.
37. If your lover makes even the slightest effort to be affectionate, put your own agenda on hold and respond.
38. Listen carefully to the emotions and body language behind your loved ones words and show appropriate concern.
39. Be available. Make it easy for your loved ones to talk to you
40. When your lover has a “gut instinct” that something is wrong, do not lecture him or her. Take heed and try to understand.
41. Pay attention to subtle changes in behavior of loved ones and address the underlying issue before it’s too late.
42. Pitch in with chores around the house. Every member of the home should share the responsibility.
43. Do not allow yourself the luxury of critical thoughts about your lover, simply because he or she has a different personality and habits than you.
45. Do not throw away items belonging to your lover without discussing the matteer first. Children also deserve to understand why you feel something they cherish needs to be discarded.
46. Make bedtime a special bonding time with children in the relationship. Talk, read stories, and reassure them of your love for them.
47. If you want to help members of the relationship to appreciate what they have, help others in need, and do a quality job while you’re at it.
48. Be a mentor or role model to those younger than you. Likewise, submit to mature elders as well.
49. Be thoughtful. Offer to do tasks or errands for a loved one without their having to ask.
50. Show genuine concern for another family in crisis.
51. Be willing to confront someone, lovingly, about an area where you see negative changes taking place.
52. Wish good upon others, especially when they need it.
53. If one child requires extra attention doe to disabilities or illness, go out of your way to make sure other children do not feel guilty, unimportant, or unloved.
54. Make every effort possible to have at least one guardian attend school activities your child is involved in. If your are a single parent who has to work, express sincere regrets for your absence and try to make up for it another way.
55. Provide your children and “open-door” atmosphere to come and talk to you about what’s bothering them, no matter what it might be. A deep sense of trust comes from time spent together. They learn they can count on you to really listen.
56. Teach you loved ones ways to avoid danger, as well as ways to protect themselves.
57. Do good deeds as a “Good Samaritan”. It builds good karma, but be aware, that it may cost you something.
58. Do not alienate those you are trying to reach when they are irrational. Hostility and a demanding tone of voice will only send them fleeing further.
59. Acknowledge the fact that others mat be better qualified to handle a matter than you are. Let them do it.
60. If your lover makes a mistake in judgment, do not rub salt into an open wound. Keep quiet.
61. When you are angry, it is often better to hold your tongue and just walk away until you calm down.
62. Make personal sacrifices in order to surprise your lover with something special.
63. Do fun things together to keep the romance of your courtship days alive.
64. Do not ponder temptation of unfaithfulness when the relationship lacks spice.
65. Assist your lover in the small details of life, in order that he or she may accomplish a sought-after goal.
66. Life has its’ ups and downs. When things seem overwhelming to handle, hang in there. Blessings will come and better days will be around if you just keep trying.
67. Couples complement each other with different strengths and weaknesses.
68. If someone speaks to you in a condescending tone, do not retaliate. Simply state your case calmly.
69. Recognize your own weaknesses, and listen to your lover when he or she issues a warning of potential danger ahead.
70. Before you say “good night,” always kiss your spouse and say, “I love you.”
71. Be aware and concerned for what you view and listen to amongst children. Remember, PG stands for “parental guidance.”
72. Teach you children the consequences of right and wrong, but remember to set a good example yourself.
73. Love you family members, “warts and all.” No matter what, let them know you love and believe in them, even when you cannot condone their bad behavior or decisions.
74. Do not ever resort to shouting arguments or periods of cold, silent treatment. Learn how to communicate in more constructive ways.
75. Do not blow things out of proportion.
76. Do not belittle those who struggle with substance abuse; assist them to recognize and resolve their issues. Never demand them to “choose” or an “or else” ultimatum.
77. Be sure to love yourself. Only then can you love others.
78. Practice a constant, personal relationship with your Higher Power, not just a ritual of churchgoing.
79. Instead of an accuser, become an intercessor for those around you.
80. Before, you point out your loved ones faults, look hard at your own. Remember, when you point a finger there is always 3 pointing at yourself.
81. Recognize the damage separation problems cause to children’s emotions and encourage them to talk about it. Even if you and your lover decide to reconcile, do not sweep the matter under the rug with the kids as if nothing unusual happened.
82.Do not take your frustration wit your lover out on the children.
83. Do not let one child’s more pleasant personality cause you to show favoritism. Each child is unique.
84. Be quick to do fun things your children will enjoy.
85. Just because something has little value to you does not mean your loved one feels the same. Respect each other in this area.
86. Do not give your lover trite, placating observations or suggestions when they are upset. It only makes things worse.
87. Do not assume your lover does not care about a crisis as much as you do, simply because he or she shows fewer feelings about it, or tries to keep busy.
88. Remember that a soft answer turns away wrath, but a hard one kindles it.
89. Give money to those in need, but use wisdom about who, where, and when. Talk it over with your lover first, too.
90. Drive carefully, especially when your loved ones are in the vehicle. Do not add to their sense of stress; they should feel secure and comfortable with you at the wheel.
91. Never be abusive, emotionally or physically, to your lover or children.
92. Show special understanding to your teens after relationship break-ups so they are not as vulnerable to attention from the opposite sex.
93. If you need outside counseling for any concern in the relationship, by all means seek it.
94. Do not manipulate your lover into doing what you want, no matter if your intentions are good or not. Give him or her time to make a decision without pressure from you.
95. Make time alone for yourself to reflect on your thoughts.
96. Avoid the mind-set that you “deserve to be happy.” It can lead to self-indulgence. Life is not all about you.
97. Believe in a Higher Power that cares for you.
98. Be careful how and when you express anger to your lover. However, do not hold it in and let it fester, either.
99. Hone your communication skills throughout your lifetime.
100. Acknowledge your interdependence on other human beings.
101. Maintain an eternal perspective. This world is not our final destination; it is a training ground for the journey yet to come.
